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| Acknowledgments |
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A Violation of Expectations |
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2 | (1) |
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3 | (1) |
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4 | (4) |
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8 | (1) |
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Grieving and Emotional Recovery |
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Grieving: A Bewildering Process |
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9 | (4) |
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The Bittersweet Path to Resolution |
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18 | (1) |
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19 | (1) |
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20 | (1) |
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21 | (11) |
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21 | (2) |
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Dilation and Curettage (D & C) |
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23 | (1) |
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23 | (1) |
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24 | (1) |
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25 | (1) |
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25 | (1) |
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25 | (1) |
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26 | (2) |
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28 | (1) |
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28 | (1) |
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29 | (1) |
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30 | (1) |
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31 | (1) |
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32 | (16) |
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Decisions after Your Baby's Death |
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32 | (3) |
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35 | (12) |
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47 | (1) |
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48 | (18) |
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48 | (1) |
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49 | (1) |
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50 | (10) |
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60 | (5) |
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65 | (1) |
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66 | (15) |
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69 | (2) |
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71 | (4) |
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75 | (3) |
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78 | (2) |
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80 | (1) |
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81 | (16) |
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The Journey to Resolution |
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82 | (7) |
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89 | (3) |
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92 | (1) |
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Thinking about What Might Have Been |
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93 | (1) |
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94 | (1) |
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95 | (1) |
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96 | (1) |
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Making Peace with Agonizing Decisions |
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97 | (14) |
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97 | (2) |
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Wrestling with Life and Death Decisions |
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99 | (1) |
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100 | (3) |
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103 | (2) |
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105 | (5) |
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110 | (1) |
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111 | (13) |
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111 | (1) |
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112 | (4) |
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116 | (5) |
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A Father's Unfinished Grief |
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121 | (2) |
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123 | (1) |
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124 | (12) |
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Sharing Thoughts and Feelings |
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124 | (1) |
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Accepting Your Differences |
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125 | (3) |
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128 | (1) |
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Tolerating Change and Conflict |
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129 | (3) |
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Can Our Relationship Survive? |
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132 | (1) |
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133 | (2) |
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135 | (1) |
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136 | (18) |
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136 | (2) |
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138 | (1) |
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Other Children in the Family |
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139 | (14) |
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153 | (1) |
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154 | (22) |
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154 | (9) |
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163 | (4) |
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167 | (2) |
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169 | (4) |
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Spirituality and Religion |
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173 | (2) |
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175 | (1) |
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The Subsequent Pregnancy: Trying Again |
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176 | (15) |
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176 | (1) |
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When Should We Try Again? |
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177 | (4) |
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When Partners Are on Different Timetables |
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181 | (2) |
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183 | (1) |
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184 | (6) |
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190 | (1) |
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Coping during Subsequent Pregnancy and Birth |
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191 | (14) |
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191 | (8) |
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199 | (2) |
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201 | (2) |
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203 | (1) |
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204 | (1) |
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Raising Subsequent Children |
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205 | (15) |
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205 | (1) |
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205 | (6) |
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211 | (3) |
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Talking about the Baby Who Died |
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214 | (2) |
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216 | (3) |
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219 | (1) |
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220 | (15) |
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Following Your Nurturing Instincts |
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220 | (4) |
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Wanting to Be the Best Parent Possible |
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224 | (7) |
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Protective Parenting in Action |
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231 | (1) |
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Balancing Career and Motherhood |
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232 | (1) |
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Reconsidering How Many Children to Raise |
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233 | (1) |
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234 | (1) |
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Remembering Your Baby and Moving On |
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235 | (22) |
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236 | (1) |
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237 | (1) |
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238 | (1) |
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239 | (2) |
| Appendices |
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Appendix A---A Note to Caregivers |
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241 | (6) |
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Appendix B---Journal Writing: A Tool for Grieving, Healing and Growth |
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247 | (4) |
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Appendix C---Resources for Bereaved Parents |
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251 | (6) |
| Bibliography |
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257 | (6) |
| Index |
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