Discovering that a partner has had an affair can feel like an earthquake. Long after the first jolt, emotional aftershocks can make it difficult to be there for family, manage daily life, and think clearly about options. From award-winning couple therapists, this compassionate guide has already provided support and expert advice to thousands of readers. Updated throughout, the second edition draws on the latest research and is filled with vivid stories of diverse couples struggling with infidelity in all its forms--sexual or emotional, in-person or online. The book offers exercises and tips for processing what happened, coping with anger and mistrust, and mapping a way to move forward, whether separately or together.
 

Douglas K. Snyder, PhD, is Professor of Psychological and Brain Sciences at Texas A&M University, where he also served as Director of Clinical Training for 20 years. He is coauthor or coeditor of several books, including Getting Past the Affair, Second Edition (for general readers), and Helping Couples Get Past the Affair and Clinical Handbook of Couple Therapy, Sixth Edition (for mental health professionals). Dr. Snyder is a recipient of the Distinguished Contribution to Research in Family Therapy Award from the Association for Marriage and Family Therapy; the Distinguished Contribution to Family Psychology Award from the Society for Couple and Family Psychology, Division 43 of the the American Psychological Association (APA); and the Distinguished Psychologist Award from the Society for the Advancement of Psychotherapy, Division 29 of the APA. Dr. Snyder has a private couple therapy practice in Chappell Hill, Texas.
 
Kristina Coop Gordon, PhD, is Associate Dean of Academic Affairs and Engagement in the College of Education, Health, and Human Sciences at the University of Tennessee. She previously served as a College of Arts and Sciences Excellence Professor and Director of Clinical Training in the Department of Psychology. Dr Gordon has received university-level awards for both her scholarship and her teaching. She is a Fellow of the Society for Couple and Family Psychology, Division 43 of the the American Psychological Association, and served as President and Council Representative for that Division. She serves on the editorial boards of the Journal of Family Psychology, Family Process, and Couple and Family Psychology: Research and Practice. In addition to Getting Past the Affair, Second Edition (for general readers), Dr. Gordon is coauthor of Helping Couples Get Past the Affair (for mental health professionals). She has a private practice specializing in couple therapy in Knoxville, Tennessee.  
 
Donald H. Baucom, PhD, is Distinguished Professor of Psychology and Neuroscience at the University of North Carolina (UNC) at Chapel Hill, where he also served as Director of Clinical Training for more than a decade. Dr. Baucom is one of the originators of cognitive-behavioral couple therapy as applied to both relationship distress and individual difficulties within a relational context. He holds an endowed chair at UNC and has received national and university awards for his mentorship of students, as well as university-wide awards for undergraduate and graduate teaching. His several books include the coauthored Getting Past the Affair, Second Edition (for general readers), and Helping Couples Get Past the Affair (for mental health professionals). Dr. Baucom has a private couple therapy practice in Chapel Hill, North Carolina.
 

Introduction
I. How Do We Stop Hurting?
1. What’s Happening to Us?
2. How Do We Get through the Day?
3. How Do We Talk with Each Other?
4. How Do We Deal with Others?
5. How Do We Care for Ourselves?
II. How Did This Happen?
6. Was Our Relationship to Blame?
7. Was It the World around Us?
8. How Could My Partner Have Done This?
9. What Was My Role?
10. How Do I Make Sense of It All?
III. Can This Relationship Be Saved?
11. How Do I Get Past the Hurt?
12. Can This Relationship Be Saved?
13. What Lies Ahead?
Additional Resources
Index