The definitive guide to creating the sex life of your wildest dreams through communication, from sexpert couple Vanessa and Xander Marin

There are plenty of books about sex. But this is one of the only books that shows you how to talk to your partner about sex. How are you supposed to have an extraordinary sex life if you can't even discuss it openly? Sex Talks is here to change that. Together, Vanessa Marin and her regular dude husband, Xander, show you that the best thing you can do for your sex life doesn’t even involve taking off your clothes. Their candid and intimate work bridges the bewildering gap between sex books and relationship books, and uniquely inhabits no-man’s-land between education and action.

Sex Talks includes five essential conversations every couple needs to have, including:
-Acknowledgement: a.k.a. “Sex is a thing, and we have it.”
-Connection: a.k.a. “What do we need to feel connected to each other?”
-Desire: a.k.a. “What do we each need to get turned on?”
-Pleasure: a.k.a. “What do we each need to feel good?”
-Exploration: a.k.a. “What should we try next?”

With gripping storytelling and an intimate peek at what really goes on behind other couples’ closed bedroom doors, Vanessa and Xander share their successful advice that has already helped hundreds of thousands. Sex Talks provides you with the sex education you wish you’d had, plus the tried-and-tested tools you need to create the sex life of your wildest dreams.

Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex therapy. She has bachelor’s degrees in human sexuality and sociology from Brown University and a master’s degree in counseling psychology. She has written for The New York Times, Allure, and Lifehacker, and has been featured many times in major publications like Oprah Daily, Harper’s Bazaar, Vogue, and Real Simple.

Xander Marin is a regular dude who left a cushy career in tech once he realized it was more fun to talk about sex with his wife all day. He’s here to show you that you don’t need a graduate degree or a license to have extraordinary communication skills—you just need to have an open mind and willingness!