Take Control of Your Life

Chances are, you’ve already had run-ins with your Outer Child — the self-sabotaging, bungling, and impulsive part of your personality. This misguided, hidden nemesis blows your diet, overspends, and ruins your love life. Your Outer Child acts out and fulfills your legitimate childlike needs and wants in the wrong place, at the wrong time, and in counterproductive ways: It goes for immediate gratification and the quick fix in spite of your best-laid plans.

Now, in a revolutionary rethinking of the link between emotion and behavior, veteran psychotherapist Susan Anderson offers a three-step program to tame your Outer Child’s destructive behavior. This dynamic, transformational set of strategies — action steps that act like physical therapy for the brain — calms your Inner Child, strengthens your Adult Self, releases you from the self-blame and shame at the root of Outer Child issues, and paves new neural pathways that can lead to more productive behavior. The result is happiness, fulfillment, self-mastery, and self-love.

Susan Anderson has devoted more than 30 years of clinical experience and research to helping people overcome abandonment trauma and its aftermath of self-sabotaging patterns. Founder of the abandonment recovery movement, she reaches out through her websites, workshops, and media to share her methods of abandonment recovery with abandonment survivors from around the world. Anderson is author of four trailblazing books including Journey from Abandonment to Healing and Taming Your Outer Child which guide people through a protocol specific to healing abandonment, heartbreak, and loss.

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Contents

Author’s Note

Part One: Getting to Know Your Outer Child
1. Welcome to Your Outer Child
2. Three Parts of the Personality
3. Exposing Your Outer Child

Part Two: The Outer Child Program
4. Outer Child and Your Abandonment Issues
5. Outer Child and Your ­Self-­Esteem
6. Outer Child and Your Future
7. Outer Child and Your Past
8. Outer Child, Your Stress, and Trauma

Part Three: Special Applications
9. Outer Child and Diet
10. Outer Child and Procrastination
11. Outer Child and Love Relationships
12. Outer Child and Losing Passion
13. Outer Child and Feeling Unloved
14. Outer Child and Debt
15. Outer Child and Depression
16. Living a Conscious Life

Acknowledgments
Endnotes
Bibliography
Index
About the Author