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| PART I. STORIES AND REFLECTIONS OF CRIME VICTIMS |
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``All the rungs on a ladder are removed.'' |
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``For so many years, nobody believed me.'' |
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``I have to live with the fact that I made that decision.'' |
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``We were not only responsible for our own grief, but for the community's.'' |
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``There's nothing like murder to make you really, really look at yourself.'' |
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``What happened to the road map for living the rest of my life?'' |
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``You're getting all this support, and one day it's over.'' |
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``Murder is like cancer, the `C-word.' It's taboo.'' |
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``When the trial was over, we had to deal with each other.'' |
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``I needed to find my way.'' |
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``It's like destroying the old structure and rebuilding.'' |
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``I needed to decide whether to live or not.'' |
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``People want to define me by my adversity and grief.'' |
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``You don't know how you're going to respond until you're in it.'' |
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``I was stuck on April 19, 1995.'' |
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``I fell into this deep dark hole with no steps.'' |
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64 | (4) |
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``The jury found him not guilty. I was devastated.'' |
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``The light of hope for me is that justice will eventually be done.'' |
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``He has become an obsession with me.'' |
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``Justice is knowing and acting on the truth, and I don't know the whole truth.'' |
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``Was it something I did that contributed to her death?'' |
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``It affects you viscerally. You're on the floor with it; you're incapacitated.'' |
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``I've had some anger that one of the offenders walked.'' |
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``All of a sudden you realize you're not in control.'' |
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``We grabbed onto all sorts of things as we were falling. One of these was forgiveness.'' |
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``Range---that's hate with a lot of chili sauce poured on it.'' |
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102 | (4) |
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``I couldn't park my angers, my fears.'' |
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106 | (6) |
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``We're having a problem forgiving the judge and the system.'' |
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112 | (4) |
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``We were falling into a dark abyss, frantic to find footholds.'' |
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116 | (6) |
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``Shaking hands with Charles ... that's the hand that held the gun that murdered my son.'' |
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``Every time my life was getting back in order, he would appear on TV.'' |
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122 | (4) |
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``It's like a twister coming through your house.'' |
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126 | (4) |
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``I couldn't seem to feel good about myself.'' |
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130 | (4) |
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``You're always kind of looking over your shoulder.'' |
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134 | (4) |
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``I would wake up every morning thinking, `I hope he dies today.''' |
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138 | (4) |
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``It was either I kill myself, or I feel something.'' |
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142 | (6) |
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``It's like a jigsaw puzzle where there's more than one way to put the pieces together.'' |
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``I thought, I'm going to run until I'm not angry anymore.'' |
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148 | (6) |
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``The real Sandy was full of shame and hate and fear of rejection.'' |
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154 | (4) |
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``My life is different in so many ways.'' |
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158 | (4) |
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``I could see my hands going around his throat, killing him.'' |
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162 | (4) |
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``I was angry and came in contact with many angry people.'' |
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166 | (2) |
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``You have all these little numbers, but none of them work.'' |
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168 | (6) |
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``It was my fault and I'm no good. I've been tainted.'' |
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174 | (6) |
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``What are you trying to tell me? What am I missing?'' |
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| PART II. LOOKING FOR THE BURMA SHAVE SIGNS: VICTIMIZATION AND THE OBLIGATIONS OF JUSTICE |
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| National Resource Organizations for Victim Issues |
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199 | (1) |
| Acknowledgments |
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| About the Photography |
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| How to Order This Book in Quantities |
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| About the Author and Photographer |
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